There was a lot of coverage in the news about negotiations. There were several sessions between Ukraine & Russia. (in Belarus after Russia started the war & France before Russia started the war) Leaders from France, Germany and a few other countries have had talks with Putin and he has ignored their pleas and continued attacks on civilians in the Ukraine. There's no talking peace with a lunatic.I don't know the details. Like you, I'm just an average person who has a minimal and incomplete understanding of the situation. I don't play amateur war analyst.
It's up to intelligence, diplomats, and national leaders to work these details out. But I want to see them at least trying diplomacy and negotiation.
What bothers me is that I've never seen them trying. Hopefully they are secretly working on it behind the scenes.
But I thought I heard Russia say, more than once, that they want NATO to stop expanding into countries that border Russia. And NATO seems to be doing exactly the opposite, which doesn't seem like de-escalation at all.
Putin annexed/attacked Crimea in 2014 and has now been threatening nuclear war. There is no denying Putin thought he could roll into the Ukraine and take it over with minimal resistance. Do you sit back with your hands in your pockets and let him continue?
We live in a free world because many people gave their lives defending that freedom. How many today would be willing to do the same?