Anytime one group of people is favoured against another, it is racism.Maybe instead of asking them to once again just be Canadian aka assimilate, maybe think why would Indigenous people not want to identify as Canadians. Perhaps, they see colonizers took over their land, killed their way of life, and took and killed their children among of a few of the things. Yet, we asked them to be Canadian. Would expect a Jew to hail Hitler, or see the Nazi's point of view?
Maybe stop looking at it as 'extra' rights, but the rights the Colonizers took from them, which was their right to live their way of life. None of us can change time, and have them live their life as if colonizers weren't hear. However, we can look past our privilege and recognize that we all benefitted from colonization at the expense of the Indigenous. How about stop asking the Indigenous to get over something that was as recent at 1997 and take our responsibility in helping the healing and reconciliation. How about recognizing that as Canadians we have done very little to reconcile what happened. We need to stop asking Indigenous people to do things we think are right, but ask them what they want, and help them even if it's uncomfortable.
Provided extra supports to those that we ripped apart is not racism, it's trying to help break the cycle of systemic racism.
I have no doubt asking them to become Canadian and give up their culture will be met with resistance but until all Canadians are treated equally there will always be problems.
As for rewarding a group of people because their ancestors many generations ago had something taken is just ridiculous. As for these descendants. They were born here and they are not going anywhere else. I was born here and I am not going anywhere else and I imagine you and your children were born here and I doubt you are going to leave and give them back what was taken. Sooooo, we need to figure out how to bring the two groups together. keeping separate statuses and rights and privileges is not a very good solution for any of the groups that are not going anywhere. You see what I mean.
As for residential schools. Sure, let's find out what happened to all those people that are not with us anymore. Knowing history is useful. But let's not let it overwhelm our common sense. The aboriginal way of life is dead. Trying to keep it alive will just create more hardship, mostly for them. Let's open a museum to remember it, like we do with all dead cultures, and then get on with the way life is.